When you are working with other artists that are extremely talented, you need to set an unspoken rule. Being a professional fashion photographer I have to be the in charge, and the sooner that is made clear the better. As I have am the common link here, it is my job to make sure each aspect of the process is taken care of properly. Which means I am the one who has to rule the set from start to finish. Ensuring that allows me to ensure that the shoot runs smoothly and that there is nothing to worry about.
I take out the time beforehand and discuss each matter of the shoot with my team.
However, it is not easy to rule a set, as you are working with talented artists that have strong opinions. Which is why I take out the time beforehand and discuss each matter of the shoot with my team. This allows me to sail a smooth ship, and make sure everyone is working on their duties as discussed. Once the process has been made clear and there is clear communication throughout. This allows you to keep a check on things as they proceed, so there are no issues when moving forward with the shoot.
Apart from having a conversation a few days before the shoot, I take out the time on the day of the shoot as well and bounce around a few ideas so that everything is on track. You simply cannot go around ordering things, as they are professionals for a reason. They are well aware of their duties and know what is required to get the job done. One of the worse things you can do is micromanage them, as it will only annoy them. And you will be unable to get the best possible results. So once they start their process give them the space and creative hand they need to get the job done the right way, as they know what you are after; and they will offer you the best results possible.
In addition, one of the best and easiest way to rule the set is to walk around and take suggestions. So each professional can offer you the best possible feedback according to their respective field. This allows you keep complete control, yet keep the team feeling as they are a part of the process. So they offer you great insight, that you can use to your advantage.
If you start to walk around like you own everyone and everything, not only will you lose respect. But you will lose a great team, and when you are working as a professional your team is what matters. As you simply cannot pull everything together yourself and take the images. Which is why you need to respect the people who help you get things done, and just because you have hired them does not mean you can treat them any way you like. Respect is a two-way street, you have to give some to gain some in return. So instead of being a ruler, become a leader.